mom fell

[Village Idiot]

...yesterday evening, right on her ass. she was walking back from the bathroom and wanted to try it alone. we let her. bad move. she does ok when she has a something nearby to help steady herself, a wall, doorway or even one of us. but she cant go it alone out in open space. well, she can but she cant stop herself if she begins to fall. its not something that we can coach her through. we've tried for over a year. the stroke has done its permanent damage. she can shuffle along but the days of independence are gone. she seemed ok at bed time last night and didnt want to go to the hospital but awoke me early this morning in alot of pain in her leg/hip area. so i loaded her in the truck at 6:30 and off we went. the hip/pelvis x-ray was good this morning at the hospital and we got a script for pain. she is asleep on the couch and we're all comforted to know nothing is broken, only bruised.

 

[outofstate]

My mom turns 81 tomorrow and we've already gone through the broken hip thing from a fall. And most recently it was a broken arm from falling in a Walmart parking lot.

Good luck...............

 

[Village Idiot]

yeah. we seem to do ok but it gets tough sometimes. mom wants to go to an assisted living facility instead of moving in with a different child every 4 months. there are 3 of us who split the duties yearly. we began with good intentions but its unsettling for mom and us too. i wont lie about that. she wants stability and i cant blame her. the stroke has left her unable to do much so we want the best care for her. us men usually just have a heart attack and die but you gals keep hanging on. i dont know whats worse. i try to keep her in good spirits with my stupid humor but its tough in the night when she's hurting. ugggh.

 

[HollyB]

sorry VI & OoS too

VI, how come if your Mom wants to go to an assisted living facility, why won't you let her?

 

[Village Idiot]

in time holly. we have to locate a suitable facility and await some required medicade suppliment verification. we went into this thing knowing nothing about the "system" but several meetings with her case wroker have began to pay off. my little sister tried to get the ball rolling back in october but hit several road blocks and couldnt get it done. now its our turn to take over the duties, along with the house renovation and the rental we're living in and the kids college and............i need a beer.

 

[reb]

Paul used a walker and I still walked with him. I put a toilet in his room. Do Not let her walk alone, you think it's bad now, if she breaks a hip or leg some never heal.

 

[Patti]

I understand VI. Dad and Mom are 80 and 78. I see the changing of the guard of who is taking care of who now. I absolutely hate to see my parents not be able to do the stuff they used to do.

 

[Fred]

Watching our parents age can be rough. Dad will be 83 next month. But I firmly believe anything I do for him or with him will be a blessing in my heart when he is gone.

 

[outofstate]

My dad is 82 and my mom is 81 today. Dad is now over weight and starting to be unsteady on his feet. His mind is still sharp although his temperment is getting nastier. Seems he has lost all sense of tack. Mom has been diagnosed with congestive heart failure and after a year on oxygen she is now off and doing better. She has alheimeizers though and is starting into the mean/grumpy phase.

I am the youngest of 4 kids. The oldest and I live close by and I am my parents POA. I obviously love my parents as much as anyone can........but they will go into a care unit the minute it is necessary. There is no way I feel I (or any of my sisters) could give them the care they need and deserve. There will probably be arguments with one of my sisters over the cost/inheritance but 3 of us are in argreement and majority rules. We even have the place picked out. My parents are going to Arizona to my sister in Tucson where health care for the elderly is fantastic!!

 

[Village Idiot]

Watching our parents age can be rough. Dad will be 83 next month. But I firmly believe anything I do for him or with him will be a blessing in my heart when he is gone.

good stuff fred